Increase Working Memory in Autistic Kids
Do you sometimes notice that your child forgets what they were doing in the middle of a task, or needs repeated reminders to finish a routine? This is often connected to working memory—our brain’s ability to hold on to information just long enough to use it.
For autistic children, working memory can feel like a big hurdle. It’s not about intelligence. Many autistic kids are bright and creative, but when their working memory is overloaded, they may struggle to remember multi-step directions, routines, or even what they were about to say.
The good news is that with the right supports, working memory can improve and daily life can feel less stressful for both you and your child.
What Is Working Memory?
Think of working memory as your child’s mental sticky note. It’s what helps them remember instructions, follow routines, and complete tasks in order.
For example:
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If you say, “Go brush your teeth, then put on your shoes,” your child uses working memory to hold both steps in mind until they’re done.
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If they’re getting dressed and forget halfway through what comes next, that’s a sign their working memory is overloaded.
Working memory supports executive functioning skills—the skills that help kids plan, organize, and stay on track. For autistic children, strengthening this “mental sticky note” can make routines, schoolwork, and social activities much smoother.
Why Working Memory Matters for Autistic Kids
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It helps with school success—remembering instructions from teachers, following along with lessons, and completing assignments.
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It supports independence at home—finishing routines like brushing teeth, packing a backpack, or getting dressed without constant reminders.
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It reduces frustration and meltdowns—because children know what to do next instead of feeling lost.
Simple Strategies Parents Can Use
From Smart but Scattered by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare, here are the most effective strategies that bring the biggest results:
1. Use Visual Supports
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Post checklists or picture schedules for routines like morning prep or bedtime.
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Label bins or drawers so your child knows where things belong.
2. Break Tasks Into Small Steps
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Instead of saying, “Clean your room,” try: “First pick up your clothes, then put away your toys.”
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Keep directions short and clear.
3. Rehearse and Repeat
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Before starting, ask your child to repeat the steps back to you.
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Practice the same routine each day so it becomes automatic.
4. Build Consistent Routines
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Predictability reduces the cognitive load.
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Keep routines in the same order whenever possible (e.g., snack, then homework, then play).
5. Praise and Motivate
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Celebrate effort, not just success.
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Use natural rewards (extra playtime, a favorite activity) to keep your child engaged.
Everyday Activities That Boost Memory
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Memory games like matching cards or “Simon Says.”
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Storytelling—have your child retell a short story or daily event.
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Movement breaks—physical activity helps the brain focus and store information.
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Reading together—stop to ask questions and let your child recall details.
Key Takeaway for Parents
Working memory challenges are common in autistic kids, but they don’t have to hold your child back. By using visual supports, breaking tasks into smaller steps, and sticking with consistent routines, you’ll be giving your child tools that make life easier—for them and for you.
As Peg Dawson explains in Smart but Scattered, the real key is support plus practice. Over time, these small changes build stronger memory skills that help your child feel more capable and independent.